When I got married, I said the same vows with the same good intentions that everyone else does. I was in love and I meant it when I said "for better or worse" and "until death do us part". I looked into the intelligent hazel eyes of my new husband, and I was ready to work to build a strong stone home with him. We were going to show the world how it was done; we were going to overcome the legacy of my parents' divorce, of our grandparents' unhappy marriages. We had dreamed of crafting our marriage into a comfortable home; resilient - with carefully masoned stone blocks; stable - on a meticulously laid foundation. And we had talked about how to maintain it together: stay ahead of the leaks, repair the cracks, update the windows, build future additions. He is an engineer and craftsman, I am an artist, and I could only imagine us building something beautiful, efficient and comfortable. I was excited to build that home, that future, with him. ...