Thoughts on Marriage Quiet Time Dave and I had a lot going on when we were first married: we were in a church that met at least three nights a week, we each had a full-time college class load, and we both had part time jobs. But in June of 2010, we both got our degrees. And in October of 2010, we left that busy church. Our lives have quieted down a lot, and the quiet has been good for us. Dinner has become an important part of our evening rhythm. We both get home from work at about the same time, and I put together a simple meal. There's an unassuming melody to it, a gentle heartbeat. I ask how many tator tots he wants, and he always says 15. I knock on the study door when the food's about done, and he gets my silverware and napkin for me. I hear the scraping legs of unfolding TV trays in the living room as I dish up his plate. If it's early enough, we watch the news on PBS; if it's later, we watch Jeopardy and Wheel...